Let’s Talk Dirty (Yes, We Mean That Kind of Talk)

At Betty, we’ve learned that communication is key to connection—in life, love, and yes, in the bedroom. When we started designing tights and lingerie with cheeky messages like “Lucky You” or “Adore Me,” we thought of them as fun, playful details. But over time, we realized they were doing something more: sparking conversations and breaking the ice in the most intimate of moments. And that got us thinking about dirty talk.

For many of us, the idea of talking dirty feels awkward or even intimidating. Whether you’re in your twenties or just starting to explore your sexual voice, dirty talk can feel like walking a tightrope between vulnerability and excitement. But here’s the thing: it’s a skill you can learn, and when done right, it can take your connection and pleasure to the next level.

Why Does Dirty Talk Feel So Hard?

Even though we’re surrounded by sex in pop culture, actually vocalizing desires in the moment can feel overwhelming. Here are a few reasons why:

1. You’re Deeply in the Moment Sex can feel all-encompassing, and adding words to those sensations might seem unnatural. But dirty talk isn’t about overthinking; it’s about enhancing what’s already there.

2. Lack of Practice If you’re not used to talking about sex, whether with friends or a partner, it’s natural to feel self-conscious. Practice—both inside and outside the bedroom—is the key to confidence.

3. Fear of Vulnerability Sharing your desires and fantasies means opening up, and that can feel risky. But remember, vulnerability is also what builds deeper intimacy.

How to Start Dirty Talking (Without Feeling Silly)

1. Keep It Simple You don’t need a script or elaborate lines. Start small with affirmations like “That feels so good” or “I love when you do that.” Positive reinforcement builds confidence for both you and your partner.

2. Use Your Outfit as a Cue Playful lingerie or tights can be a natural icebreaker. For example, wearing our “With Love” stockings or “Adore Me” tights sends a message before you even say a word. Let them spark the conversation and see where it goes.

3. Lean Into Compliments Dirty talk isn’t always explicit. Sometimes, it’s as simple as saying, “You look so hot right now,” or “I can’t stop thinking about you.” Compliments set the tone and build anticipation.

Building Confidence with Dirty Talk

1. Practice in Low-Stakes Moments If talking dirty during sex feels overwhelming, start with suggestive texts. A flirty message during the day can be a fun way to practice and build anticipation for later.

2. Explore What Turns You On Take time to reflect on your desires. What excites you? What fantasies make you curious? The more you understand your preferences, the easier it becomes to share them.

3. Get Creative with Scenarios If you’re feeling adventurous, try role-playing or incorporating storytelling into your dirty talk. Let your imagination run wild and have fun with it.

2 Ways to Use Dirty Talk to Maximize Pleasure

1. Introduce Cheeky Lingerie to Break the Ice Start with playful pieces like our “With Love” stockings. The cheeky message and elegant design can help set the mood and open the door to flirty banter.

   

2. Use Your Body as a Map Try the “Take Me Off” dress, where each flower embroidery represents an erogenous zone. Let your partner explore—and guide them with a mix of words and reactions. It’s all about creating a shared adventure.