Is Your Type Holding You Back

We all have a type—or at least, we think we do. Maybe it’s the tall, brooding musician, the intellectual bookworm, or the charming extrovert who lights up a room. But here’s the thing: your type might be the very reason you’re still single or stuck in a cycle of unsatisfying relationships.

Why We Develop a Type

According to Dr. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist who studies human attraction, our “type” often forms based on early life experiences and subconscious emotional needs. If you’re drawn to emotionally unavailable people, it might be because you grew up learning to chase affection. If you fall for the same bad-boy or bad-girl persona, it could be tied to a craving for excitement and unpredictability.

In other words, your type isn’t random—it’s rooted in patterns that your brain recognizes as familiar, even if they’re not always healthy.

The Trap of Attraction Patterns

The problem with always dating the same type? It limits you. If your type hasn’t worked for you in the past, chances are, it won’t suddenly start working now. Familiarity can feel safe, but it can also be the reason you keep dating people who aren’t right for you.

Dr. Terri Orbuch, a relationship expert, emphasizes that breaking attraction patterns is key to finding meaningful love. “Sometimes, you have to step outside of what’s comfortable to discover what’s truly compatible,” she says.

Signs Your Type Might Be Holding You Back

• You keep dating people with similar red flags.
• You feel like you’re reliving the same relationship over and over.
• You reject potential partners who don’t immediately fit your ideal mold.

Sound familiar? If so, it’s time to rethink your type.

How to Break Free from Your Type

1. Identify the Pattern:
   Reflect on past relationships and note common traits. Were they emotionally distant? Overly charming but unreliable? Recognizing the pattern is the first step.

2. Expand Your Horizons:
   Go on dates with people who don’t fit your usual criteria. You might be surprised by how much chemistry can develop with someone unexpected.

3. Focus on How They Make You Feel:
   Instead of asking, “Do they fit my type?” ask, “Do they make me feel safe, valued, and understood?” The answer to that question matters far more.

What Happens When You Step Outside the Box

When you break free from your type, you give yourself the chance to experience new kinds of connection. Maybe it’s someone who isn’t flashy at first glance but makes you laugh until you cry. Or maybe it’s someone you wouldn’t have swiped right on, but who shows up for you in ways your “type” never did.

And when you’re ready to meet someone new, dress in a way that reflects your openness to new possibilities. Our Forever Tights, with their subtle watery pattern, are an elegant reminder to go with the flow and let life surprise you.

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Final Thought

Your “type” is just a story you’ve been telling yourself. Change the story, and you might just change your love life.